Half Term Hell

I’ve finally had a chance to sit down and write, so decided I’d cover half term and what we got up to!

Thursday – First day of half term

We had a homework and library day. We spent the morning reading TJs school books and we did the work in his homework book. Then we took a walk to the library, found out about some Halloween events and picked up a few new books to read. Then we had a lunch in lunchboxes because TJ always asks for packed lunch but because he’s eligible for free school meals I’m mean and say no. We then played with different toys and read some more books for the rest of the day.

Friday

Today’s activities for today were reading, playing with Lego and another lunchbox lunch before heading to the park to burn off some energy that he seems to have all day everyday.

We then walked home along the beach and got a slushy. I will never get bored of living at the beach.

Saturday

Saturday is a martial arts day. We got to martial arts for 10, and he went in for 45 minutes whilst I waited outside in the freezing cold because parents can’t stay on a Saturday, and it’s too far to walk home because I wouldn’t make it back in time to pick him up. We then went to the doctors because I had to have my flu jab and were in and out within 10 minutes. After a bath when we got home, we changed the bedsheets and curled up watching movies for the rest of the day.

Sunday

Today has been a reading morning, we read one of TJs school books, and then we decided to make a pritt stick monster set. I’ve never been so stressed in my life. It kept falling apart everytime I tried to do anything.

We got there in the end though, and about 5 minutes after I took this picture the dinosaurs head fell off, along with a spike from his back and his tail. Looks good in this picture though so that’s all that counts right???

The rest of our day is going to consist of making rice krispie cakes, and eventually sorting TJs toys out because we need to make room for new ones.

Monday

Soft play day! We went to our local soft play area allll dayyyyy, literally opening until tea time. TJ had a mini meltdown at lunch because “the beans on his plate was touching the other food” but other than that, no problems! He played nicely with others and even saw a couple of his friends from school.

Tuesday

This morning we made the other pritt stick monster set, it went a little easier seen as how I cheated and used cellotape.

Next we had lunch, and then it was Halloween cakes time! We made rice krispie cakes with Halloween decorations and Halloween cupcakes too!

They turned out great!

Not long after we had to head to martial arts, where TJ got yet another stripe! Only 5 more to go until he gets his next belt!

Wednesday

Today was a clusterfuck. And thats putting it politely. TJ woke up in an awful mood and literally everything set him off. He didn’t want to do anything and everything was upsetting him. I finally got him to put his patch on because it needs doing for an hour everyday, and we started writing his numbers and then spelling the numbers. He wasn’t really concentrating but we got through it. Then we did some sums which he adores so he did them easily and it was fine, then I asked him to write Tristan, which he’s more than capable of doing, and all hell broke loose. He started screaming, kicking, throwing stuff, the anger coming from him when he has one of these outbursts honestly scares me. The school provisionally have said he’s got ADHD and a low level of autism (due to not wanting to be touched, not allowing eye contact and having sensory issues when he’s having one of his outbursts) but I really am unsure. What I do know is that there’s no stopping him when he’s like it, I just have to let it fizz out. He went onto the naughty step and after being put back 3 times after getting off, he took himself upstairs and into his bed where as I write this he’s fallen asleep. I’m gonna let him have an hour nap and see how he is when he wakes up. We were supposed to be going to the duck pond to feed the ducks and the park nearby but I threatened that we wouldnt go if he was naughty so I can’t go back on that, so we won’t be going. Which is a shame because we don’t have another free day where we can go, unless we squeeze it into Friday somewhere. Here’s hoping for a better afternoon because I am exhausted already.

Turns out he wasn’t asleep, he was just quiet. He came down a little while later and seemed to have calmed down. We had lunch, and then decided to go to Tescos. Big mistake. Meltdown after meltdown and then he crawled most of the way home.

Thursday

We started our day by going to the library for a Ghosts and Ghouls stories and crafts session. TJ loved listening to the stories, and made a Frankenstein door hanger and then a ghost, and also some colouring.

Bowling and arcades was our plan next. He almost beat me at bowling, which was not good for me ego, and we played lots of different arcade games.

Friday

Sea life centre day! Today we went to the sea life centre for the Ascarium 2018 Halloween event. Luckily we had some half price vouchers for kelloggs cereals so it didn’t cost too much, and we had a lovely family day out.

TJ had to find different items throughout the centre and write them down to win himself a little treat. At the end of the walk round, there was a witches lair set up, and the woman dressed up as a witch explained all about recycling and keeping litter out of the oceans etc, and it was really good. She asked the children to pick up rubbish she had scattered around and then gave them a plastic cup in return. After this room was the reptile room where TJ got a badge for touching a cockroach.

Saturday & Sunday

TJ was at his dads, and me and Keiron had a chill weekend which was lovely

Overall we had a fantastic half term, and I hated it when TJ went back to school, I’ve realised we really need to make the most of the time we have when he’s not at school, because I miss him so much all the time!

Starting School

So it’s been a month now since my little guy started school, and today was his first parents evening.

I have been a bag of nerves about it since the appointment times were booked. TJs outbursts have always been a problem, and I was hoping seen as how I hadn’t had notes home for a while I figured he was doing better, but of course nagging doubt was on me.

It turns out he’s doing amazing at school. Yes He has his outbursts, but the school are helping him so much, he gets extra active time to try and calm him and get him to focus, and a new reward system has been introduced that goes back and forth between home and school to help reinforce good behaviour. Asides from behaviour, academically his teacher said he was doing fantastically. He’s always the first to put his hand up to answer questions and is always eager to learn something new. His maths is amazing, and he can count to 100 and beyond when he puts his mind to it. His letter forming is improving and he’s sounding out phonics and words a lot better than when he first started.

I am beyond proud of him. I know this is just the start of the journey and lots more could happen, but it’s all looking like he’s settling in well. I’ll keep in contact with his SENDco teacher, and hopefully together we can keep him on this track!

A Day in the Life

My days are all over the place at the minute, we do allsorts. But Mondays through to Thursday TJ is at nursery, so I decided to wait until today (Friday) to do our Day in the Life. The plan for today is housework, picnic in the park and some movie time if we have time.

Our day started at 5:30am, with TJ yelling about it being morning already. Although actually I was awake at 4 because the cat decided that was exactly the right time to meow in my ear hole and wake me up.

5:30am

Not going to lie to you, I’m a terrible parent. I put Peter Rabbit on for TJ, and dozed back off beside him. He kept waking me up every 5 minutes to inform me of what was happening in the film.

7:30am

I’d been awake on and off now for 2 hours at this point, still groggy and moody because I stayed up until midnight video calling my partner (who I fell asleep on the phone to as always because I’m always tired) I figured it was time to get up properly. Woke up to some messages from said fella, wish I have to lame and admit is one of my favourite things ♡

8:30

I’m up and dressed, it took an hour to persuade TJ he needed to actually be dressed for the day. Eventually he settles on mismatching top and jogger bottoms, before going down and forcing his nana to make his breakfast of cornflakes.

9:30

Time for kiddos patch, he has to wear a patch for an hour everyday to strengthen his right eye. Which is fine except to get the best from it he needs to be doing something that requires him thinking etc, we tend to do puzzles, or practice his writing. Today we did a puzzle that needs the words spelling out. It took the entire hour but he did really well, and then of course wants a sweet.

10:30

I finally get some breakfast, I’m supposed to be following slimming world, but I slipped and enjoyed a massive bowl of cornflakes. TJ spots my breakfast and screams until I make him some toast.

11:30

My uterus is attacking me and I want all the chocolate, send help

11:35

Some giant chocolate buttons may have fallen into my mouth.

11:45

Nana has gone out with her friend, so me and TJ have come upstairs. He wanted to watch Peter Rabbit again (he doesnt have this much screen time I promise, i just feel crappy)

12:30

Sandwiches for lunch, nice and boring. Followed by a trip to the park.

I had to run to and from the park to add some miles to my MyMarathon miles- we did 1.2 miles! (https://mymarathon18.everydayhero.com/uk/danielle-kirk if youre interested)

3:00pm

I think the sun tired TJ out a bit, he wanted to come home. We went to the library on the way home and picked him up some books. So here we are chilling at home again, watching telly.

4:15pm

The attacking uterus wants chocolate again, only there’s none left and I’m skint. Send help.

5:15pm

Just realised I should probably feed my child at some point. There’s hotdog pizza in the fridge that was brought yesterday reduced. Definitely a lazy meal, but I feed him fullof fruit and veg as much as I can the rest of the time so it’s all good.

5:30

Nanas friend just came over with a minion fart gun for TJ, I give it an hour before I throw it at the wall.

6:00pm

The demon has been fed. Went upstairs, and im out of pads, had to ask nana to sit with TJ so i could leg it to Tescos.

The woman that served me gave me the most sympathetic look ever, it was wonderful.

6:30pm

TJ is supposed to be heading up to bed so he can brush his teeth and get into his pyjamas and then have a story before bedtime at 7pm, but hes decided now is the perfect time to give the dog a hug. Good job they’re cute.

7:10pm

The demon is finally in bed. After a fight over what pyjamas he was going to wear for bed, and some casual bribing with a story. I read The Dinosaur that Pooped the Past to him, which he adored, and I enjoyed the Back to the Future references of course.

7:30pm

We’ve got chicken thighs and some potatoes that were brought and needed eating up today so I made a tomato sauce and fried the chicken with it, and cooked up the potatoes with some veggies for mine and nanas tea. I’ve gotta say, it was pretty tasty! And all syn free on Slimming World.

I’m now sat watching Emmerdale and the other soaps, and then heading to bed to eat those giant buttons from earlier, watch a film called Forever My Girl, and video chat with Keiron. I need an early night though, TJ’s going to lunch with his dad tomorrow which means me and Keiron can go see the new Avengers film, even though its already been spoiled for me, before taking TJ to the beach after the movie. Then Keiron is staying in Hunstanton so we can hang out Sunday too 🙂

Mother’s Day

This Mother’s Day was hard for me. It was the first one since me and TJ’s dad broke up, and TJ was at his dads this weekend too so it made it even more difficult. He didn’t come home until about 2 that day.

I spent most of the day wondering whether I should give TJ’s dad’s girlfriend the present I’d let TJ pick for her, in the end I did. I decided that she probably does more for TJ than his dad does (by the sound of it at least) and she definitely deserves some sort of thank you from TJ. When TJ got back I let him give her it and she seemed genuinely thankful. I’m glad I made the decision to give her it.

Paw Patrol & Potty Training

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Today seems to be the first day that TJ has taken to his potty training. We have tried a few times before, but he just didn’t seem ready. I decided to try again today, because he’s been sort of telling us when he needs the toilet. I didn’t expect much because he’s still young, and like I said he’s struggled with it before.

But this time, he seems to have got it. Warning: Theres gonna be some gross parent talk.

IMG_2509edit.jpgSo first of all, he realised he was weeing and before I could get to him he had already sat himself down and was using his potty. Its a Thomas the Tank Engine one that toots when the sensors have something on them, so it made the noises and he got up and I cheered. He was so happy. I got him a mini roll, thinking it was a fluke but that he needed a reward. A little while later he started telling me he needed a wee, I walked over (I can see him from where I’m sitting but there’s a table restricting my view of the actual potty) and saw that he had sat on the potty and done a poo, unfortunately he hadn’t sat far enough forward so it was on the edge of the seat. I placed him in front of the potty so he could stand and pee into it so that wouldn’t go everywhere whilst I cleared up his poo. Just a little while ago, he told me he needed a wee then sat on his potty again and shouted ‘I did it’. This time I gave him a cracker as a reward, and gave him a big hug like last time and told him well done. I don’t want to give him a mini roll everytime he uses it, he’ll get as fat as me!

Now I’ve got a big roast dinner cooking ready for when Gordon gets in, and we’re watching Paw Patrol.Here’s hoping for this to be the start of official potty training!

So if I could offer any advice on potty training it would just be don’t rush it! Try it little and often, also make sure they have a comfortable potty. We started out with a cheap potty that TJ would not even sit on and he didn’t really fit on comfortably. Then we upgraded to the Fisher Price Thomas the Tank Engine Rewards Potty (we brought ours from Argos for £30) and it seems a lot better for him so far. Plus it doubles up as a toilet booster and step when they get to the next stage!

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So proud of this cheeky little monkey!

Goodbye Kittycat

The last few days have been extremely difficult. Our little kitten got really ill, very quickly. The vets have said that she was just too small to deal with it all.
I’m absolutely heartbroken. I took her in straight away, and they told me she would need to be put to sleep, but we could try some treatment, but they weren’t hopefully. Of course, we tried. They rang us at 4 and told us the treatment wasn’t working and that we needed to come in and say our goodbyes. When we arrived, the vet came out and told us she had improved slightly and was eating so they wouldn’t put her down, she could come home but we’d need to keep the emergency number ready in case she turned in the night, and to keep her warm and syringe water into her mouth if she didn’t drink. I stayed up all night with her, changing the water in the hot water bottle as soon as it started to chill, and giving her water as often as I could.
I took her back the next day as the vets requested and she perked up. She was purring again and moving around. The the vet (a different one to the day before) was checking her over. In my opinion he was being overly rough with her, then he took her temperature and she slumped back down and stopped purring. He told me she needed to stay in for monitoring again.  She stayed with them and I had to keep ringing them. When I rang at 3:30 they told me we could take her home with a course of antibiotics, I was over the moon. I knew she wasn’t out of the woods yet but it was promising. I picked up my son from nursery and told him we were going to pick Caitlin up and off we went. We walked in and the vet said that she wanted to put her to sleep because she wasn’t eating by herself and she would only just be surviving if we did take her home. I had to ring Gordon and get him to decide what to do, I didn’t want to say yes. I wanted to fight, I wanted her to fight. But I know now that would have been selfish of me. My best friend (who was my rock that day) went and picked up Gordon as he’d gone home as we thought we were just picking her up and we all said out goodbyes, including TJ which was even more heartbreaking. Then made TJ go outside with Lucy.

Fast forward to 2 days later, and none of us are coping very well. For a tiny little kitty, that was only in our lives for less than a month, she has left a big hole. TJ keeps asking where she is, and kept putting food in her bowl (I’ve since thrown the food away, and put the bowls in the cupboard, I couldn’t bring myself to throw them away) and the dog keeps searching for her and has been clingy since.

I don’t know how to respond to TJ when he asks for Caitlin. So far I’ve just been saying she’s gone. I think that’s the right thing to do? I don’t know. I’ve not had much loss in my life, so I don’t know how to cope. When my childhood dog died I cried for about a week, when I was 13 but that’s the only loss I’ve known.

This is so difficult…

Embarrassing Incidents

I luckily haven’t had many embarrassing moments as a parent, but today was one of the worst.

I took TJ to get his haircut and the woman refused to do it because apparently he had head lice – she said this very loudly in front of the whole salon, and I had to walk out of their with his hair soaking wet where she had sprayed it. I understand that they don’t want to cut hair with head lice in, and they are going round the nursery he’s at. However, since the warning went up at the nursery I have gone through his hair every night, and went through last night and found nothing. Anyway, she had just cut another childs hair before TJ’s and had told the mum that he had a few nits.  She had to sterilise everything before she started doing TJ’s hair, and I genuinely believe she maybe saw a few eggs and just didn’t want to have to sterilise everything again. So rude. I’ve never been so embarrassed. I wouldn’t have minded as much, but when we got home I couldn’t find anything in his hair and I sat there for a good half an hour going through it with a nit comb. He has some cuts on his head from his eczema and some general dirt from being outside, other than that not a thing. I’m fuming. She could have cut his hair, she just didn’t want to.

He needs it done desperately because it’s so thick and curly and horrible in this heat, but I don’t know where else does children’s cuts in my area, and I’m definitely not going to this place again!

Please share your embarrassing stories as a parent and make me feel better!

 

 

Land of Nod…

Or not as the case may be.

TJ has been up all night, and is really ill. We can’t keep his temperature down, and he’s burning up. Plus has a really dry cough. We rang the out of hours doctors and they’ve given us some advice, but there’s not a lot to go on. I’m a worrier, so I think I’ll book him an appointment at his normal doctors in the morning – better safe than sorry.

As I write this, he appears to be drifting off, so maybe we will get some sleep tonight. Fingers crossed!

I can’t stand seeing him this way, he hasn’t been himself all day 😦

Apparently I spoke too soon, he’s wide awake now and watching Kung Fu Panda 3. We’ve only watched it a million times this month already, so I’d rather watch paint dry, but anything to keep TJ happy (and quiet so daddy can sleep because work in the morning)

Well I best sign off now, try and get some shut eye!
I’ll update when anything changes!

Epic Appetite

Please tell me it’s not just my child that eats everything in sight?!
Recently he’s woken up and just not stopped eating. For example this morning he’s already had a whole bowl of coco pops, 3 yoghurts and a box of raisins, yet he’s still asking for more!

He just doesn’t stop! I’ve cut him off for now so that he actually eats his lunch! Although he did just bring me a beer from the fridge in what I can only assume was some attempt to bribe me into letting him have more yoghurt 😂

He’s two and a half so I’m assuming it’s some sort of growth spurt? I try not to give him too much bad stuff because I don’t want him getting fat like me, but he’s still eating a hell of a lot! Should I just ride it out and see if it subsides or stop him now from having anything other than his main breakfast (toast/cereal)?

Help!

Planes biscuits!

Today we tried our hands at biscuit baking! Yesterday we were given a load of Disney magazines with all the baking things inside. My fiance isn’t having a great time recently, and he’s obsessed with Planes so we chose to use the Planes cookie cutter as our first trial.

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In the oven 🙂

Unfortunately I’m a better cake maker than biscuits and they weren’t the best, but hey for a first try I can’t complain!
I put in a taster and tried that and they taste okay so that’s the main thing 🙂

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Recipe:
200g (7oz) Butter
200g (7oz) Caster Sugar
1 egg
Vanilla extract
400g (14oz) plain flour

Method:
Mix butter and sugar
Add vanilla and egg – mix
Add flour
Roll dough out and use cutters
Place in oven for 15-20 minutes 🙂